이별을 극복하려면 얼마나 걸릴까? 에 대한 영어 대답들

• I don't pretend to know what the meaning of life is but I think you have to accept it. Booze however also works. I know it seems cliche, but it dulls things...

-  I have been through it all before ten years prior. It took me meeting someone better to forget her, so I know there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Eventually, someone will make me forget her. But, your right. Booze(술마시기) does help a lot.

• Actually studies have shown that men are more negatively impacted by relationship strains and breakups than women. The stereotype that men are stoic and unaffected simply isn't true.
  
  - Not being a dick, actually curious. Do you have a link?    
  
  
  - Here's a link to a 2010 study of college students in Florida:http://hsb.sagepub.com/content/51/2/168.abstract

  and a Daily Mail article that describes it better. Quick clip: "Surprisingly, we found young men are more reactive to the quality of ongoing relationships,' she said. That means men's mental health is more affected by the harmful stress of a rocky relationship. The researchers also found that men get greater emotional benefits from the positive aspects of an ongoing romance. This contradicts the stereotypical image of stoic men who are unaffected by what happens in their relationships."

  
  

*stoic : a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.

- I read one on BBC just last week, but can't find it. This one is another one, but it doesn't quote its sources.

http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/coping_with_a_breakup/Men_Have_Fewer_Friends.php

• I was a pathetic mess. I cut off contact because talking to her sent me into a downward spiral. It was self preservation.

*downward spiral:  getting more and more depressed, perhaps due to causes unknown. It is called a downward spiral because there is no way to stop it, its just going to get worse and worse... until the person crashes, and maybe finds their way back to happiness.

• I broke up with one girl and was fine the next day, largely because she had drifted away from me before the official end. Another girl I like recently cut off contact, and that still hurts because it hasn't ended on this side.

• I remember reading somewhere that women, for the most part, spread their emotional support throughout their friends, family, and romantic relationships. Whereas, in this age, men are taught to be stoic. They save almost all of their emotional support for that one single person. When you lost that person, you lose all of your emotional support.
  
  
  
• In total it took about 3 months for the raw-ness of it to go away. Probably 15 months for the thoughts of the person to go away all together. In my case I went pretty much cold turkey, removed them from social media sites and didn't talk to them. Even went as far as moving to another city. I think this made it easier overall because A) You are busy building up a new life B) Never seeing that person means they leave your mind quicker
  
  

cold turkey: 즉각 끊다.

A faster but unpleasant method of stopping an addictive habit, such as drugs or alcohol. It means that you just totally, completely stop, and never do it again (or at least try to).   Going cold turkey is opposed to stopping it by gradually doing it less and less, or stopping it with help like special gum or medicine. You don't get any help; you just stop. Lydia tried to smoke only one cigarette a week, but she ended up going back to her old habits. She decided to try out going cold turkey.   "Cold turkey" is a term describing the actions of a person who gives up his habit or addiction at a single moment, rather than through gradually easing the process through tapering off or supplemental medication. 

• I totally agree. I cut off all ties and purge them out. It's hard but it's the only way. I just hate how some songs can set me back
  for weeks - brings back memories and whatnot.
  
  - To piggyback, I was with my ex for 1.5 years. A month after we broke up, we got coffee. Thought there was a chance we'd get back together. A month after that, she was in pictures with this guy on Facebook, and then they were Facebook-official "in a relationship." I was crushed and felt like I'd returned to square 1. Finally blocked her on Facebook, deleted her number, etc.
  Truly the best decision I ever made.
  Even if you're holding out hope for the possibility of getting back together, do yourself a favor (talking to the general reader) and please cut off all ties. If you run into each other down the road, so be it. But you're only hurting yourself and your recovery by checking her profile every day and drunk-texting her.
  It took me about 6 months to stop thinking about her all the time, wonder what she was doing, and accept that we weren't "meant to be," whatever that means. It's been almost 8 months now, and I've slept with a uh multitude of people since then. Took a long time to get over that first hurdle, though.
  I'm at a place now where I love being single and enjoying life (I'm 25) and probably wouldn't get into a relationship even if I met the "perfect" woman. Just not worth the stress and the downside to me right now.

- This sounds painfully similar to what I'm going through right now. Didn't talk for two months after the split, decided to catch up and see how we were doing.
I wasn't prepared for how much it would hurt seeing her again, seeing her moving into a relationship with another guy.
I'm having to delete her facebook to stop myself from seeing pictures of them together. It's just too much for me.
4 months in and I still get that clenching (이악물기, 불끈) feeling ( in my stomach before I go to bed missing her.
I'm beginning to date and sleep with other people again, but it doesn't make me miss her any less.

-Do it right now, man. Don't wait. It's only causing you pain to keep that connection to her.
Every so often(가끔) I debate adding her back to see how she's been, but then I think about seeing her profile picture with her arms around that guy, and I know it's a terrible idea.

- Me too, almost exactly the same happened to me. But I haven't reached the place where I am happy being single yet. Some days are okay and some are really lonely. But I am getting there.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1qdhyp/men_how_long_did_it_take_for_you_to_get_over_an/